A stranger donated to my travel fund and what they asked me to do in return is insane…

I love feel-good stories. In fact, I wouldn’t mind writing about them for a living. I love when good things happen to others, but never did I think that a stranger would go out of their way for me.

I love travel. I’ve only ever had the opportunity to travel once for my birthday and believe me, I’m beyond grateful. Ever since, I dream about getting on planes, booking flights and seeing what is out there. I watch Instagram stories where people are looking out of planes and think to myself “Will that ever happen to me?”. I told the cleaner at my work that if someone needed to go to a different city for a day and couldn’t make it, I’d take that opportunity in a heartbeat. If you followed me on Instagram, you’d know at one stage I even photoshopped pictures of myself in Bali and Paris. Trust me when I say if they call it a travel bug then inside me must be a travel monster.

I started my internship in May this year. As much as I love my job, it only allows me to save a portion after I pay rent, bills and of course a tank of petrol to take me 55km to work and back home every day. With my 23rd birthday quickly approaching on the 8th of August, I put out a status update to my family on socials (that I have no way of contacting telephonically, oops I’m really bad at saving numbers, okay) that I did not want any gifts this year, but rather to donate to my travel fund in order to give the travel bug in me some joy. I woke up the next morning to a message from a mutual follower asking me if they could donate to my travel fund.

I thought they had to be joking, why on earth would someone that I hardly know and have only spoken to back and forth on Instagram offer to give me money? Their response and what was asked of me in return was one that blew my mind and that I still cannot believe to this day.

“Random acts of kindness and I know my little contribution will be a blessing to you, you can thank me by paying it forward whenever you get the chance”

I’m currently sitting at my desk on the verge of tears. Yes, a real person offered to do this for me. No, there is no catch, just very good people in the world.

I told my colleague about what happened and I insisted that there was no way I could possibly take money from someone I didn’t know. Not because I didn’t want to, but because I’d feel so bad. My colleague then told me if I didn’t, I would be taking the opportunity bless someone away from this individual and it wouldn’t be fair to them.

I don’t think this individual will ever understand how much I appreciate what they have done for me. From this day on, I promise to always pay it forward when I know someone is in need. I want to be a better person than I was before and most importantly, I want other people to know that there are still good people in this world, really good people.

I’m not sure how many people read my blog or how many people this will reach, but if I could do one thing today, it’s to ask people how you can pay it forward. Here’s the thing:

When you bless others, you also bless yourself . This is because what you give is what you get.

I promise to pay it forward, do you?

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The Chronicles of the Unlucky and Unemployed – Chapter 2: Unemployment is Expensive.

PSA: To all my lovely readers in the same boat as I am, it is not our season yet. You are loved. Massively. Ferociously. Unconditionally. The universe is totally freaking out about how awesome you are. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone seeking employment at the moment x.

Another unsuccessful week has gone by in terms of the job search but we must remain hopeful. This week was incredibly difficult for me personally because I felt like I had really hit an all time low when it came to looking for work. I know, everything happens in it’s own time (God has his timing and it’s just not my season yet). However, I wanted to touch on something that has touched me personally and that I feel is not talked about enough among graduates from university or unemployed job seekers.

Recruitment processes. I have a love-hate relationship with them. Obviously it forms part and parcel of getting a job which is understandable, but I’m talking about processes that can take anywhere from weeks to months. I love the idea of getting to know the company and seeing what life is like behind the scenes, but I don’t think that businesses understand how expensive processes like these are, especially if there’s a chance that the potential employee might not be hired at all. To give you guys a bit of background, I recently went through a strenuous recruitment process which took place over the course of a month. It required me to be in different parts of town, which included central and north (about 30-40 minute drives each for me) and also required studying and completing assessments. I know I’m going to sound like a complete geek, but I genuinely enjoyed the studying aspect. Being fresh out of university gave me that competitive edge and I’m not new to burning the midnight oil in order to ace results. However, two steps away from the final interview, I was told that they would not be moving forward with me with that recruitment process. What killed me was that I had put so much time and effort in because I really, really wanted this job and I thought I was a perfect fit. Not only that, but after a month of patiently waiting for answers, buying new clothes to meet whom I thought would be my potential employee, filling up my tank to drive to the other side of town and purchasing a few odds and ends (like printing study notes, etc.), I found myself really broke.

I am truly fortunate to have my own car, but I don’t think people understand that not everyone has their own forms of transportation. As someone who only got her car a few months ago, I decided it would be best to Uber to town as I wasn’t comfortable driving to town on my own in peak morning traffic. Luckily my grandfather offered to take me (and might I add, took me through his work which made a really nifty shortcut). However, if I had to Uber to town that would’ve cost me about R250 from where I live (which would have totalled a whopping R500 for me to get back home), R300 to take me to the North side of town (R600 total to get home) and add in the fact that I needed a white blouse (which was requested by the employer) which I could only find at Woolworths for some reason (I won’t even mention the price, but please know it cost me a pretty penny) and of course if you didn’t have internet and you needed to communicate back and forth (to complete my assessment) which would have probably cost around R50 for printing as well. If my total is correct (maths was never my strong suit) this process could have cost close to the tune of R1250 for someone who used Uber. All of this, just to be told that you didn’t get the job.

I’m not necessarily upset about the situation anymore,  because looking back, I genuinely enjoyed the recruitment process and I understand now that maybe I was destined for something better. I just feel that it is quite unfair for unemployed students or job seekers to have to go through such extensive recruitment processes when it is evident that we lack certain criteria for the job. In my case, I was told that I was too young and lacked “life experience”. In my CV, the first bit of information under my name is my date of birth and in my academic history it is stated that I graduate this year.

The job search in itself is already so hard and it is evident that one of the biggest groups that suffer the most is students who have just graduated from university. Not everyone has money to complete some of these processes too, which is heartbreaking. Moral of the story: unemployment is expensive. My heart really goes out to people who use public transport or have to use internet cafes to get work done, it really does impact on the pocket. Not to mention, over the course of a month, it was possible to find other opportunities as well, but you’re so focused on the recruitment process you’re already in because you think you’re so close to the finish line.

What are your thoughts on recruitment processes?

A new week. Let’s go.

We kap aan.

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How To Start a Successful YouTube Channel – My Secret Tips + Tricks!

 

I recommend watching the video, as I go into great detail regarding the points I discuss in this blog post.

YouTube has surely become one of the best platforms to showcase a variety of content. Whether you’re into lifestyle, fashion, beauty or fitness, there is always something for people to watch on YouTube. Now, what happens when you’ve become so inspired from sitting in front of the screen and watching that you decide to move behind the screen and start filming? YouTube is a great way to build an audience and to create killer content to share with the rest of the world. However, YouTube is not everything that it is cut out to be and I am here to shed some light on what it really takes to be a content creator and if you’re genuinely serious about becoming one, how to start a successful YouTube channel.

Know why you start a YouTube channel

I think it’s important to know why you want to start a channel. A lot of the time, when people message me on Instagram and tell me they want to start a YouTube channel, they are somewhat confused when I ask them why. I’m not asking to be rude, but it’s because some people start a channel without a goal in mind and it results in their channel ending up dying because they didn’t realize what it takes to start a channel. YouTube is commitment and requires a lot of effort and consistency.

Doing YouTube for money/press drops

If you’re starting a channel thinking that you’re going to make dollar signs, I have bad news for you my friends. Am I saying you can’t make money from YouTube? Not at all. I have made money from YouTube even though I believe I only had 600 subscribers at the time, so it is possible. However, you won’t see money when you start out on YouTube because YouTube has now enforced a rule which states that unless you have reached a certain watch time or you have 1000 subscribers, you are not allowed to monetize your videos, which means that ads will not run on your videos and you will not make money. Press drops usually only come with quite a following and even so, it still requires a lot of patience and consistency on YouTube.

Just start

The one comment I get almost all the time when people want to start a YouTube channel is that they’re afraid of what other people are going to say. I think that I forgot to mention in this video that your content is essentially going to be seen by the rest of the world. If you feel that you are too sensitive to deal with criticism and bullying, I wouldn’t recommend starting a YouTube channel as I take mental health very seriously. However, if you think you can handle it then just remember that people always going to have something to say. Everytime someone views your video to “make fun of you” that’s a view for your channel which is a bonus for growth. I guarantee that the people you go to high school with won’t matter in 5-10 years from now. If you enjoy creating content, just do it!

Equipment and my favourite apps

I recommend starting on your smartphone if you do not have a camera because you don’t need the best camera on the market to start your channel. I started off with a basic Nikon L330 and once I saw growth in my channel, I decided to move into a new direction with higher quality content, which only came with 800 subscribers might I add. Being close to 1000 was the push I needed to up my game and now I film with a Canon EOS200D and I use a 18-55mm lens. You don’t have to have the best camera to start off with, rather work with what you have and once you see growth then you can move on to better quality.

Consistency

I would not recommend YouTube for someone who is not consistent. When people view your channel, they want to subscribe to people who are going to keep pushing out content. I feel like when you go missing for long periods of time, it hurts your channel because people can see that you’re not going to be consistent and then they probably won’t stick around to see more content from you. Am I saying you have to post everyday or week? Absolutely not. But it helps to have a schedule for yourself so that you don’t disappear completely.

Growing your channel and SUB4SUB

I talk a lot about this topic in detail and I definitely recommend watching this part of the video because I go into detail about sub 4 sub and how it hurts your channel and is an ineffective growth tool.

Descriptions

Why people leave their descriptions blank I will never know. It’s so important for your audience to know where to find you and important links you may want to share with your audience. If brands want to work with you,  they’ll contact you from the email in your description, but if you leave it blank then they’ll move on and find someone else instead.

Collaborations

Don’t be shy to reach out to other YouTubers. I honestly think that a sure way to grow your audience is definitely to reach out to someone who has more or less a similar number of followers as you and asking them if they would like to collab with you. You don’t have to physically be with them, it’s literally just mentioning their socials and doing a similar video. People like to find other content creators and I can guarantee both people will benefit from doing collaborations.

Sharing your content

I don’t think I can stress the importance of sharing your content enough. If you upload a video to a channel where you have 5 subscribers, chances are if you’re lucky you’ll get 5 views. The reason I say ‘if you’re lucky’ is because not all subscribers are active subscribers. You can have 100 subscribers, and get 20 views. There are a ton of reasons for this but the most important aspect is getting your content out there. I’ve mentioned that some of my favourite platforms to use are Twitter, Instagram Stories, targeted Instagram sharing accounts and Facebook Groups. A few tools I use are TubeBuddy and VidIQ which are both really helpful plugins for choosing the right tags for your videos and providing stats so that you can see what is working and what isn’t.

Do you have a YouTube channel? I’d love to know in the comments! Also, don’t forget to leave me any tips or tricks you’ve found to help grow your channel x

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The Chronicles of the Unlucky and Unemployed – Chapter 1: Experience.

I want to pretend like I’m not writing this with tears streaming down my face and that I’m not struggling to get oxygen into my lungs, but hey it’s the truth and I am an absolute mess.

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Ok, maybe that was a little bit dramatic.

Yet again I have received the soul crushing e-mail which basically says “thank you so much for putting all your time and effort into this job that we for sure looked like we were going to give you, but in actual fact we’ve only got more bad news…”

Rejection is not new to me if I’m being completely honest. Been through the job search, got the e-mails saying you’ve done great for yourself but we just don’t think you’re the right fit, blah blah blah. I’m not bothered by the rejection aspect at all, what bothers me is the fact that this process took about a solid three weeks, which required me to go into town for an interview, study for a week to write an assessment (which I aced with a solid 87% by the way) and then a whole work day on the other side of town (my petrol tank did the things guys), dedicated to learning more about what life in the business is like (sounds like they were literally preparing me to get ready for the job, right?). But, this morning I open up my e-mail to find those words we all love to hear:

“thank you so much for your application, but we’ve decided that we’re not going to move forward with you for this recruitment process”

Perfect.

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Obviously my hurt butt wanted to know exactly what the heck I did wrong, so naturally I had to pretend like I wasn’t falling apart so they could provide me with feedback and I kid you not, this was the response:

“The team thought you were very sweet, and clearly you were passionate about working here. You’re role play (yes, they actually made me do a painfully awkward role play) was excellent, so well done. This position comes with daily challenges and stresses and after careful consideration, the team felt that you are still quite young and inexperienced and perhaps you may not be able to handle those stresses and challenges just yet. So we recommend gaining some more life skills and experience and then you are welcome to re-apply in a years time.”

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I have no words.

Really, I don’t. You see, age and experience you can tell from the get-go, so why was this not evident in the first round of my interviews? Most importantly, can someone please tell me where I was supposed to find experience when:

  1. I’ve been studying for the past 4 years and will get my degree next month.
  2. I’ve been balancing a job on top of my studies in order to make a bit of money on the side.
  3. You know these posts I write occasionally and those videos I make on YouTube? yeah, throw those into the mix too.

So, now what? Well, I guess the search starts from all over again. So please pray for me as I pull together the last few cents I have to go through this all. over. again.

Graduates, I feel ya’ll on a spiritual level when I say that unemployment is expensive.

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Unfortunately, it doesn’t get any better. Fun fact: South African graduates fall part of the large unemployment statistics because most companies in South Africa are not willing to hire students with no prior work experience. Don’t believe me? Check this out for yourself:

 

So let’s just get this straight: I spent 12 years in the schooling system just to obtain a matric certificate, followed by 4 years studying in the hopes of obtaining my degree (which I will receive next month). While balancing my studies I could only do part-time work as I could not commit to full-time employment (duh). Yet, it is my country who would like me to pull experience out of thin air before I can apply for an entry-level job. Yikes.

Ladies and gentlemen, I am still part of the South African unemployment statistics. Yup, it is I, who has just completed a 4 year degree in English and Communications while balancing a job in marketing, who has poured her heart and soul into creating content and of course who is constantly plagued by those unlucky e-mails trying to push me into a deep, dark place where alcohol is rife and the devil laughs at your misfortune.

Unfortunately for me, I can’t stand the taste of alcohol and I think I’ve had enough misfortune so that if the devil ever told me I’d never be able to withstand the storm, I’d whisper in his ear “babe, I am the storm”.

and so it continues, the chronicles of the unlucky and unemployed.

In the words of a true Capetonian, we kap aan.

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The First Week of January Went Like This: Weekly Recap 2019.

“You know all those things you’ve always wanted to do? You should go do them”

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And so another year begins. Happy new year to all, I trust that this year will be filled with everything your heart desires and nothing but success and happiness wherever you go. I don’t particularly enjoy making new year’s resolutions, after all you have 365 days to be the change you want to see in the world. Whether you start on the first of January or the middle of August, it makes no difference as long as you get the job done. I have a video going up soon about the goals I aim to achieve in 2019, but that has been put on hold until the job hunt bears fruit. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers as this is the year I’m thrown into the working world and trust that I myself am keeping the job seekers in my thoughts at this time too.

The first week of January was a whirlwind to say the least. The year began with a spontaneous adventure to the gym, which was very hard for me personally as I am still learning to love all my curves and edges.

On the second of January I said goodbye to my grandfather as I had planned to leave for vacation the next day. I’ve always hated hospitals and this time was no different. As my grandfather has Alzheimers, he could not remember me but held my hand for the last time. A bittersweet moment that I will remember for the rest of my life.

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They say good things come in three’s. On the third of January, I packed my camera and lenses in for a trip to Montagu with my grandparents (my mom’s parents), mother, brother and dad. I love road trips, it sparks my sense of adventure and gets my creativity flowing (yes, I made a travel diary). I decided that on this vacation, I wanted to explore more and get out of my comfort zone. Not before I got a few shots for Instagram though.

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To be honest, I don’t really remember what happened on the 4th of January. I think I decided to take a break from everything and just enjoy what the resort had to offer. For those wondering, my family and I stayed in the chalets in Montagu Springs. It’s self catering apartments and I loved every minute of it. I’ve grown up staying in hotels and this was so different. Although I did end up sleeping on the couch because I tend to get claustrophobic in dark spaces and the kiddies room is as tiny as a cupboard. But hey, all part of the adventure! I also tried poitjiekos for the first time and I have to say, I loved it! Apparently I’ve had it when I was younger but I really don’t remember having it so it does not count. I also stepped behind the camera a few times, my favourite shots to capture are the unexpected ones.

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The 5th of January brought about somewhat of an adventure. I decided to golf with the boys. On my mom’s side of the family, all my cousins are boys and on my dad’s side of the family, all my cousins are girls. Nonetheless, we made a day out of it. Although I suck at most sports, I did take a few great shots (emphasis on a few). Montagu has an amazing golf course which offers scenic views and a breathtaking landscape, which makes for an amazing backdrop for photos! Although I was in charge of driving the golf cart, that didn’t mean I couldn’t steal my cousin (who is an amazing photographer) for a few minutes to take a few photos.

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The 6th of January was the day we as a family decided to make the most out of the last day we had left. Unfortunately, this would also be the day that my grandfather would leave this world and become one of the angels above, watching over the rest of our family. RIP Pa, I love you. These are some of the shots we took on the day, which you can find on my Instagram

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The 7th of January just meant packing up to go home. If anyone knows me, I am the type of person who loves to sleep on roadtrips, I’m a pro napper indeed. I’m truly grateful that I made it home safely, but it’s time for me to get back to my passion which is writing and creating content. I am currently on the job hunt, so please remember to keep me in your thoughts and prayers.

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What I Got For Christmas 2018 + GIVEAWAY!

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‘Tis the season & Jesus, you’re the reason.

Every year at Christmas time, I always binge watch “What I Got For Christmas” videos. They’re one of my favourite videos to watch and I love seeing what other people get for Christmas. With that being said, please do not think that I am trying to brag in any way, shape or form because these videos are purely for the entertainment of my subscribers and a tradition on my channel. I am extremely grateful to have the things I have, even if it’s friendship, health, family or success. 2018 has definitely been a rollercoaster of emotions for me personally and I am grateful that I finished off my university career with 2 distinctions and I graduate in 2019.

While it is the time of receiving gifts, the spirit of giving still thrives inside of me and my charity of choice for this year is the Cape of Good Hope SPCA. I love everything they do for animals in need and they have never let me down when it has come to fetching animals I reported in distress or stray animals. If you would like to donate to this cause, please click here (none of these links are affiliate and all proceeds you decide to donate go straight to the SPCA.

I’m also having a giveaway on my Instagram for all my South African readers. You can find the giveaway here and it closes on the 31st of December so you still have time to enter!

On that note, I just wanted to wish everyone well for the rest of the festive season. This time of year is not a good time on the roads and it is no surprise that crime thrives in these times. Please be safe on the roads, if you’re traveling this festive season. To everyone drinking, please drink responsibly and do not drink and drive. If you’re in need of a lift, I have a promo code for both Uber and Taxify, where your first ride is free (for Taxify I believe it’s free up to R150).

Uber Promo Code: deeanned4ui

Taxify Promo Code: BGSVY

Thank you for all your love and support this 2018. If I’m not back before 2018 comes to a close, I wish all my lovely readers all the best for 2019 and a prosperous new year filled with love, happiness, health and adventure.

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September Goals & Reflection [Day 2: 30 day blogging challenge]

I know I’m a bit late on the bandwagon, but happy Spring everyone!

I love September because it marks new beginnings. For me, this month has brought some great surprises: one being that I was on the radio! Yesterday I won a competition on Heart 104.9 where I get to go to any nature reserve in Cape Town [Boulders Beach penguin is honestly at the top of my list right now]. August brought a lot of blessings, particularly turning 22. I’ve really had a lot of time to think and I’ve also made the decision not to take life so seriously. Your 20’s are supposed to be the wildest years of your life and I feel as though I’m not living the way I would like to and I’m not seeing as much as I should. However, this is also the month where I have to knuckle down and apply for jobs. I am so excited for the new chapter in my life but I feel that with this, comes great responsibility. So I decided to put my goals down in my virtual diary and get the ball rolling:

Get serious about blogging

I figured that every year, R150 goes off of my student account to cover the cost of my domain. I can’t have a blog and not utilize it. It doesn’t make sense to be paying for something I don’t use. When I stopped blogging, my stats started going down and I just didn’t feel motivated to produce content here because I was so focused on my YouTube channel. By doing the 30 day blogging challenge, I’m pushing myself to get back into blogging and to remember why I fell in love with it in the first place. This goes hand in hand with posting regularly to Instagram. I need to get my stats up so that I can reach my goal of 1000 followers.

Read more

I have a love-hate relationship with this goal. Books are expensive. I love to read but I hate spending money. When I stopped working this year, it was because I wanted to put more time and effort into my studies, after realizing that I could not graduate cum laude due to the fact that I failed an exam and was required to write a supplementary, it really made me see things differently. I then lost interest in my studies, partly due to the fact that I’m not doing what I love.

Stop spending money unnecessarily

I love to spend money on things I honestly don’t need. Make-up, shoes, clothes, you name it and if I think I can get it at a steal, I want it. I’ve been so careless with my spending this year and this realization came to me when I watched a video of a girl who stuffs envelopes with money to limit her spending. Although I’m probably not going to go to the extent of limiting myself to the last cent, I would like to try saving at least R100 a month. If I succeed, I’ll be on the road to putting money away and investing it so that it can grow rather than having the urge to spend it again.

Meet new people

This is terribly embarrassing for me to admit, but I have no idea how to go about meeting new people or networking. This hasn’t always been a problem for me, only in recent times when my confidence took a knock in high school. I used to love meeting new people and my goal is to meet at least 5 new people this month. This is to move out of my comfort zone and stop being afraid of going for things I’ve been scared to do before.

Take more risks

All my life, I feel like I’ve always played it safe. After watching the movie Ibiza, I feel like I have a new found love for doing things without thinking and following your heart. I resonate with Harper on another level. I say this with a sense of responsibility at the same time, because I’m sure that not everything happens the way it does in the movies.

Learn to love myself more

I am my biggest critic sometimes. I feel like I never take time out to assess my own needs and treat myself with the things that I deserve. That needs to change and I feel that without love, one doesn’t really have anything.

What are some of your goals for September?

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Mental Health, Break-Ups & Fake Friends! TMI Tag [30 day blogging challenge]

 

If there’s one thing I love, it’s being open and honest about issues that matter. In this video, I get real with you about issues like mental health, boyfriends, break-ups and fake friends.

I did the TMI Tag with questions from YouTube Society (if you decide to do this tag yourself, please send me your links so that I can support you) and the questions are as follows:

  1. What are you wearing?
  2. Ever been in love?
  3. Had a terrible break-up?
  4. How tall are you?
  5. How much do you weigh?
  6. Any tattoos?
  7. Any piercings?
  8. OTP? (One True Pairing/Favourite Couple)
  9. Favourite show?
  10. Favourite bands?
  11. Something you miss?
  12. Favourite song?
  13. How old are you?
  14. Zodiac sign?
  15. Quality you look for in a partner?
  16. Favourite quote?
  17. Favourite actor?
  18. Favourite colour?
  19. Loud music or soft?
  20. Where do you go when you are sad?
  21. How long does it take you to shower?
  22. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
  23. Ever been in a physical fight?
  24. Turn on?
  25. Turn off?
  26. The reason I joined YouTube?
  27. Fears?
  28. The last thing that made you cry?
  29. Last time you said you loved someone?
  30. Meaning behind your YouTube name?
  31. Last book you read?
  32. Book you are currently reading?
  33. Last show you watched?
  34. Last person you talked to?
  35. The relationship between you and the person you last texted?
  36. Favourite food?
  37. Place you want to visit?
  38. Last place you were?
  39. Do you have a crush?
  40. Last time you kissed someone?
  41. Last time you were insulted?
  42. Favourite flavour of candy?
  43. What instruments do you play?
  44. Favourite piece of jewellery?
  45. Last sport you played?
  46. Last song you sang?
  47. Favourite chat up line?
  48. Have you ever used it?
  49. Last time you hung out with anyone?
  50. Who should answer these questions next?

On that note, this is my first blog post for the 30 day blogging challenge. I have decided to get my views up because for some reason my views and interaction on posts have been relatively low. The last time I did the 30 day blogging challenge, my interaction and stats sky-rocketed and I just enjoyed challenging myself when it came to new and innovative posts. If you would like, I’ll have a post related to a bunch of blogging ideas so that you can start your challenge too!

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My Realistic Birthday Wish List

If you’re reading this, my birthday is on the 8th of August and you may e-mail me for my delivery address, haha.

I love birthdays. I’d like to think that it’s one of the best days of the year, because you’re the centre of attention and nobody can take that day away from you. Being a Leo, I love being in the spotlight. I always make sure that nothing ruins my day. Doesn’t matter if I have 20 assignments due the week after or if I have pressing errands, this day is all about me and I was fortunate enough to be born the day before a public holiday, so I get to party the night and sleep it off the day after. However, whenever people ask what I want, I always hit a blank. This happens every time and then after my birthday, I always ask myself why I never asked for something simple or pushed people in the right direction. This year I’m leaving it here on my blog, except for my mom and dad. I think it’s about time I started driving car of my own, don’t you think? Just kidding!

The items on this wish list is relatively affordable and things that are quite easy to shop for. With that being said, I don’t HAVE to get these gifts. It’s the thought that counts. This is just an idea of what I’d really like.

Urban Decay Comfort Matte Lipstick in “BackTalk”

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Come to think of it, I have absolutely no matte lipsticks in my collection. I find them quite uncomfortable (apart from The Body Shop Matte Lip Liquids). Nude lipsticks in particular are quite cute and add a subtle look to a dramatic eye (which I have started doing more lately). This is relatively affordable and I think the packaging is so elegant. Due to the fact that I will be heading into the world of business soon, I don’t want to go overboard, so I’ll have to revert back to subtle looks. This is sold on the Urban Decay website and at the V&A Waterfront for only R250,00.

Ardell Wispies

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Being a YouTuber, I am always filming YouTube tutorials. To me, looks aren’t complete without lashes. These double as both natural and dramatic. Not to mention, these are very comfortable to wear. I wore this in my sunset eye look that I did on my channel not too long ago and I have to say that I was so impressed with how easy it was to apply these lashes. I would definitely recommend these lashes, but they are a bit pricey for drugstore lashes. These are sold at Clicks for R79,95.

Yoga Mat

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If you follow me on Instagram, you would know that I’ve been getting more serious about my health. High blood pressure and heart ailments run in my family and we don’t always eat very healthily. I genuinely enjoy yoga and Zumba. I go to Zumba every Saturday and when I’m at home, I do the dances on my Xbox. I’d like to start my mornings off by doing yoga, but I don’t have a mat. This is one thing I really need and I feel can be quite affordable if you know where to look. I saw this one on Takealot for R250 and I’m obsessed with the reversible side of it.

You are a badass at making money by Jen Sincero

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You are a Badass was my saving grace this holiday because I didn’t really go anywhere. Practical advice goes such a long way when it comes to changing your life around. I still have to do my book review on it, but I’m not finished and I don’t want to finish it because it’s so good. If I had this book, I’m sure I’d finish up though. I have no idea how to work with money and i’m a very impulsive buyer. I had to get rid of my credit card because it was causing me to spend money that I didn’t have and only made more debt for me, which as a student I could not pay off. I know for a fact that this book will be great if it’s anything compared to You are a Badass. This is available on Takealot and is so cheap when purchased from the right stockist!

Garnier Micellar Water

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I don’t really need this, but it’s nice to have. I recently started filming more tutorials and that means having to clean my face more and having to take off all my make-up when I’m done. This micellar water is the best make-up remover and does not make my skin break out or irritate it at all. This is one of my holy grail products and I would highly recommend it for all my make-up junkies. It’s sold at Clicks for R63,99 for a full size.

Eyelash Applicator

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Once again, in relation to filming videos, I always need to put my lashes on. If you’ve ever applied lashes, you would know what a pain it is to use your fingers. It can go either way and I hate when my lashes won’t work with me. This one is available from SwiitchBeauty for only R80,00.

Old School Vans

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I have a huge love for shoes, so naturally I’m a sneaker and heels kind of girl. The Vans Old School Sneaker has become somewhat popular recently and I am 100% here for it. I love how versatile it is, as it can be worn with both shorts and jeans. I feel that high tops look untidy with shorts and in the summer they’re just not practical. Oh, and I need new sneakers.

Pop Socket

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Pretty much self-explanatory. My brother sat on mine that has pizza’s on it, so mine looks absolutely horrible. These are great for when I have to take photos of my make-up and I need to hit all the right angles.

Urban Decay All Nighter Setting Spray

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Ok, maybe this one isn’t really that realistic. I’ve only ever heard great things about this product which makes it such a wish list item. If anyone has ever used this, please let me know.

Benefit Porefessional Pearl Primer

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For that dew that should come through in the winter time. I haven’t really read the reviews on this but it looks like such an interesting product to use!

Pepsi Top H&M

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If you follow me on Instagram, you would know that I wanted this shirt but when I went back for it, it was gone. I love this top so much and I would do anything to get it back!

 

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I tried OKCupid (worldwide) for a month and here’s what happened…

The world of online dating has become somewhat humorous to me. After downloading and deeply regretting having Tinder for a while, I deleted it thinking that I was not going to put myself through that ever again. Until I saw an ad for OKCupid. Now, keep in mind that I knew it was a dating app. What I didn’t know is that you can actually use it to meet like-minded people and make new friends from across the world. Having absolutely nothing to lose and add in the fact that I’m on winter break, you have me over here writing my thoughts on my experiences using the app.

HOW IT WORKS:

Unlike Tinder, OKCupid is not the same as diving right in after posting your best selfies. In actual fact, before you can use the app, you have to answer a series of questions so that the app can set you up with people who you have a number of things in common with. Questions can range from what you’re looking for on OKCupid all the way to what you’d like to change about the world, and then some. At first, answering these questions were really cool because it’s almost as if people want to get to know you, but after a while it became very tedious. Once you’re done answering a few questions, you add your best photos of yourself (with a few great compliments every time you successfully upload a picture, I really liked this feature) and there you go, you’re all set.

This is what your profile looks like once you’ve added your photos:

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Once you’ve added your basic information, this is what others will see:

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MEETING NEW PEOPLE:

On OKCupid, you do swipe left and right like Tinder with the added bonus of getting to know new people by reading their bios (Ok, I’ll admit it’s exactly like Tinder but people actually have their act together). Next to their names, there’s actually a percentage match designed by OKCupid to tell you how much you have in common with that person, which could tell you whether or not you’d make a good match. This is great but I don’t think you can accurately match people by percentages when you take into consideration that men are actually really lazy and hate doing these types of things. I can’t tell you how many times my guy friends have told me that they’re willing to lie in their bios simply because they want to impress ladies or that they don’t even bother reading bios in the first place. That I can believe, because when I used to be on Tinder, a lot of guys would send the most disgusting messages despite my bio explicitly stating that I’m not into hook-up culture.

You’re allowed to message anyone on OKCupid, but they won’t know you’ve received it until you choose to answer or they have A-List, which is similar to Tinder Gold, a paid service which allows you to access certain features like boosting your profile to increase your matches or a higher success rate of matching with someone you like. This is the only thing I don’t like about the app. You see, the app will notify you that someone has liked you (so far, I’ve been liked by over 1000 people) but they won’t tell you who it is unless they’ve messaged you, so you basically have to guess. Due to this, you have to sift through all the profiles or you have to state in your bio that you can’t see likes (so the person can message you, you can see messages).

You’d think that because I have over 1000 matches that I’d have found the perfect man by now, right? Haha, wrong. You see, I’ve matched with a few people from all over the world who can’t even string together a decent conversation or people who message me with “hey, how are you?”. Come on guys, you can do better than that. I have however made a few great friends who are nothing short of excellent when it comes to banter. Knowing that long distance isn’t really going to work for me at this stage (I am contemplating teaching English in the Far East/Dubai), knowing that others are on the same page and are in it for the giggles like me is always a plus. I’ve left my favourite messages I’ve received here for you guys to laugh at, or if you’re curious:

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It’s 2018, ok. More power to the females

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Not going to lie, this one kind of freaked me out a bit.

OKCUPID VS. TINDER

I find these apps relatively similar. Basically it’s photos and a bio, except Tinder is very popular when it comes to hook-ups, which is the main reason I deleted my account. I like OKCupid because it allows you to connect with people all over the world and your profile is tailored to what you’re looking for in terms of friendship, meeting new people, short-term dating, long-term dating or hookup. The only gripe I have is that I can’t see who’s liked me and you’re only allowed to match with a certain amount of people before OKCupid sends you a message to tell you that you have to set up a date with your matches once your number of matches has reached max (because I’m totally going to order chinese with someone in the U.S, living in South Africa). I find Tinder to be faster in terms of matches, but I’d say OKCupid is definitely a step ahead in terms of exploring your options all over the world. If you’re actually looking to find something solid, I’d recommend this app rather than Tinder.

THE VERDICT

Did I find the love of my life on OKCupid?

No.

Did I make new friends across the world (and gain a few Instagram followers in the process? shameless self-promo, ya know?)

Yes.

Keep the app?

No. I find it to be quite boring and although it is a better option than Tinder, I still feel like it’s a way to make money off of people. Realistically, I don’t think I would be able to “fall in love” with someone on the internet without meeting them first. 1 because I am terribly afraid of being catfished (although I know exactly what to look for, some people are repugnant when it comes to playing games with people) and two, I’m a very good judge of character in person. We could have fireworks going off in our conversation and meet up in person and well, crickets. I like the idea of meeting new people, but that’s about it. Love is definitely not on the map (see what I did there?) for me with regards to OKCupid.

RATING

6.5/10.

Have you ever tried dating apps? If so, let me know which ones are your favourite. I personally would just like to meet new people for now, pen pals welcome!

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signing out of my dating profile!

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